The story of 'the zone'

Zone?? It's this brand new game that's really awesome. It's about learning the different time zones through planting mushrooms! Cool aye?!?! :o

Okay that was lame. I don't even know what I just said hoho




Anyways, all jokes aside. I'm pretty sure alot of you know where this is headed. Yes I'm talking about...

*THUM THUM THUMMMMM*

Gahhh

It's cool to be 'in the zone' when you're really good at something, but it's never fun to be friend-zoned or family-zoned. If it's from some random stranger or a girl I have no feelings for, then it's cool. But not when it's from your crush.

Especially when it's from your crush! T.T

When this happens, typical us guys (well.. atleast I do lah haha) look in the mirror and start to  think 
"What does the other guys have that I don't have??!!?? :( " 

                   "I'm not good looking enough for her. :/"

"Girls always go after the bad boys. Am I being way too nice??? :o"

                    "I think I'm too much of a nerd for her to like me. Go figure :B"

"Omg, I am going to die single because I am too uncool!! ._."


The list goes on forever. I'm pretty sure anyone who has been friend/family-zoned before would have thought of atleast one of these before. I know I have. Been there, done that. -_- Worst of all, it totally ruins your self-esteem because you think you're not good enough in general for anyone to like you for who you are. 

Of course, most of the time we exaggerate the truth. I do it all the time and it's funny when I think about it haha. We feel like the other person can't fall for us because we're too goofy or too ugly. But truth, it's not because of any of those (except for those shallow people. Which is good. Trust me, never go after a shallow person now matter how 'perfect' she is -_-) but its because she isn't the right one.

Yeah, you're probably thinking about it now and deep down in your heart. Deep deeep ddeeeepp down, you know that too. I mean, if she can't like you for who you are, why go after her? And if she only looks at outer beauty like all those hot guys with their buffed bodies and hot looks, then screw her because she can't appreciate a nice guy like you. 

Hey my friend, it's never a good feeling being friend/family-zoned, but it happens. So what can you do about it?? Cry? Feel sorry for yourself?? Will that make anything better? No it won't. Think of it positively. I mean, she's still in your life right?? And she thinks you're a nice guy! Which is actually a good thing! It beats being a jerk. And no, just because you're friend/family-zoned, doesn't mean you're gonna be foreveralone. It just means God has prepared someone special for you. You'll see. ;)

After all, even the 'Happily Ever After' in fairytale's happen at the end of the story. What's a good story without a little twist and turn?? ;)

So chill bro. God is still writing your happy ending. It's gonna happen! Noone likes reading short fairytale so let yours be long with a few surprises along the way aye?? ;)

P.S. I googled up friend/family-zone and I came across some really funny yet true pics haha. Take a look ;)

I've been... promoted? haha

LOVE YOU TOO SIS WOOO HAHA

Sowwiiee, noone can be as awesome as me :3 

HAHA THIS IS HOW WE FEEL EVERYTIME!!

Oh btw! Check out my friend's blog! It's really awesome :) He post some real cool photo's and blogpost! Worth a read! AdibVun

Yeah, this is him trying to act all cool ;) haha! give the link a try. :) AdibVun

The Right Solution

You know how when someone does something bad or mean to you and your first instinct is to get mad and try to get revenge?? Well what if I told you there was another way?? Read this first. :) A short version of the story.

- Funniest thing happened today: While looking for a car park today, a lady driving a red car wanted to come out from her lane and cut in front of my car. Seeing that I was only a fwe inches away from the car in front of me, I see no point in letting her through so I drove the car up when the car in front moved forward. What I saw next was the lady scolding me and starring at me like I was doing something wrong. Next thing I saw was her son sitting behind stuck his middle finger out. In return, Shi Qi who was sitting behind with Sarah saw it and gave him a 'heart shape' so the boy quickly took his finger down. Long story short, next time someone points their middle finger at you, remember to give them some 'love'. That way, we don't have to lower out standard to their standard by being annoyed :) -


Haha cool eh? Ordinarily in that situation, anyone would have thought of mean and nasty things to say back to these people. I know I would have. After all, they started it right??

But maybe thats the wrong thinking? It's typical to see people fighting negativity with negativity, but have anyone ever thought fighting it with a lil' positivity instead? Like Shi Qi. :) By seeking revenge, we're actually lowering ourselves to their already low standards. Not to mention it also ruins your mood and gives these people the satisfaction that they successfully ticked you off. So what's the point??

So why not change your mindset and trying to think of a positive way to respond instead? Something cool and quirky the reflects the kind of person you are. Who knows? They might learn a thing or two from you ;) And that just might be the right solution. :)

Shoutout to Shi Qi for her awesome-nest and for the inspiration for this blog post! :D seriously cool what you did there haha. 

Decisions

A friend asked you to borrow your favourite pencil. You are reluctant at first, but you agreed because he promised to return it to you after he was done using it. The next day, he told you he lost it and apologises. Would you: 
A. Get really mad at him and scold him for what he did. Then make him feel bad about it.
B. Get really mad and upset at first, but forgive him after awhile.
C. Shrug it off,accept his apology and just tell him to be more careful next time.

Soo... which answer will you choose??

Honestly speaking, if I had to choose an answer, I would choose A. As often as I say this, I always let my emotions come first and influence my decision. This is just a random case and there many other ways our emotions effect what we say and do. Aaron and Samuel, my classmates really opened my eyes. They handle these kind of situations so maturely and with a clear head that it makes me wonder, why DO I get mad over these small things?? And once again, to be honest, I don't even know. 

Maybe it's the satisfaction you get when the person feels guilty for doing what he did?? Or maybe it's a way for me to feel good about it?? Or even maybe i'm just being too emotional and letting my heart do the thinking instead of my head. Whatever it is, I now truly see that maybe there's some things in life not worth getting mad over. 

Let's put it this way, before making any decision, ask youself  'Which is more important. Your friend or his actions??' You'll be surprise to see and realize that your friendship with that person trumps almost anything that person did. Its better to forgive, forget and move on then to get all worked up and be emotional.  

So shoutout to Samuel Loi and Aaron Andre making me understand that life is too short to get mad about these little things. 


Their mistakes CAN be forgiven, our stuff CAN be compensated, but friends CAN NEVER be replaced.

My problem

You wanna whats my problem?? My problem is caring too much. Trying too help everyone. Trying to get everyone to be happy. MY own naiveness was trying to solve other people's problems because I know how it feels like to be alone. To have no one to help and just get stuck in a whirlpool of depression. And maybe maybe...

Thats where I got it wrong. I get mad when things don't turn out right. It's not because I'm mad at you for not doing the right thing. It's cuz I'll be mad at myself for not succeeding to stop the worst from happening. And it hurts alot, as if I'm the one going through your problem, yet I'm so helpless of doing anything.

My mom says I'm naive for trying to help, but I just can't sit down and watch these things happen. But them again, everytime, everytime I try to help, it ends a disaster, one way or another. 

So honestly was it wrong for me to help?

Maybe it is. Maybe I'm not meant to help everyone. Maybe some things are beyond my control. And maybe, I care too much for my own good.

I'm too emotionally unstable, and when I'm in one of those moods, it never ends good. In the end, I'm the one who's doing the hurting. I'm just so... ugh. :(



I never meant to hurt anyone. I just want everyone to be happy.

Teenagers, understanding and love.

'I love you' is a beautiful thing. It brings two people together, makes you go crazy , brightens your day, and so on. The list just goes on and on. 


We all have been gifted with the ability to love and theres nothing wrong to love someone or something. Contrary, the world should learn to love and care about others more. 

But nowadays, love is just a game to alot of people, and it's just really sad to see. Especially to us teenagers. When you say 'I love you' to someone, you have to really mean it. You have to ready to give your all for her and do anything for that special person.


But wait!! You probably think, 'Hey, I'm prepared to do exactly just that when the right person comes along.' But are you?? Let me ask, can you even provide for her? Can you give what you think you can? Do you think you'll even get married?? You haven't even stepped into college let alone be ready to commit to her. Everyone of us, deep down, knows this is true. I thought of it before myself but I pushed it aside because I was too blinded by love at that time.  My mom once told me "Love a girl when your ready to provide. Focus on your studies, graduate from college, get a decent job. Then you'll know your ready."

She's right.


I'm not saying its wrong to have feelings towards someone. I'm just saying we needa think things through. As annoying as it is (even for me), truth is, studies come first right now. Save that 'I love you' for that real special someone when you're ready. Even I still have feelings for girls from time to time, but I know what must come first. Don't screw up your future just because you think you're in love. When the right time comes, you'll know. Trust me. God will nudge you forward ;)

Road to recovery

Ever been through an experience so depressing and demoralising that it just breaks you?? And you feel like you can never pick up the pieces and out them back again. It's the lowest point in your life and at times, you think maybe the world is better of without you.

I've been through mine.

After going through helluva experience , they'll be a period where you try to put things back the way it is. Make sense in your life again. For me, it's truly the roller coaster ride. One day you feel so confident and so alive, the next, absolute depression. It's difficult to go through this alone, thats for sure. At times, I didn't think I'll ever recover. But given enough time, all wounds can heal, even scars.

I think theres 4 phase in the road to recovery. Atleast for me.

1. The pain.
The names says it all. This is probably the hardest part of it all. Its when your stripped of everything you once held close. You just feel so empty and you just seem to make bad judgement everyday. The only thing you feel like doing is crawl up in bed and cry or listen to emo songs all day. Don't forget the depress feeling and the feeling of absolute regret. Its terrible, just terrible.

2. Pretending.
This is the time when you think you've recovered... but you don't. The pain is there. Feelings still there but you try to convince yourself that you've moved on. You are constantly reminded of the problem and it comes back to haunt you alot. They'll be days when you feel fine, and days when you like phase one

3. The Actual Recovery.
At this phase, life.... actually seems livable again. You got back on your feet and you kinda moved on. It's a great feeling to be becuz here's when you genuinely start to be happy again. :) You get repercussions of the past and maybe a thing or two upsets you, but it sure beats being emo whole day haha

4.  Healed
Nothing much to say here. You've made it :)


I think I'm in stage 3 now, going to stage 4. I'm recovering really well now. Catching on my studies, being more responsible, having fun and just being happy in general. They key is to let go. But then again, thats exactly the hardest thing to do, and thats why people get stuck in stage 1 and 2 for so long. For me, I finally got over it with support from friends and God. Get a friend who understands what your going through. It seriously helps! It also helps avoiding contact with that person awhile. It gives you time to heal and recover, like the way scars heal faster if you don't disturb it. 

Its nothing much here but I just thought I'll share it to you people. :) And if anyone out there who needs a shoulder to lean on or feel lost, come find me. I can't promise I'll help you fix your problem, but I'll always be there for you and help you when you need it. Because sometimes, no matter how tough you are, there are times when you do break down, and you'll be absolutely lost. That is the time when you should open up and take the first step on the road to recovery.

The dreaded day

..... Damn is it me or are the random people who post on my chatbox for apparently 'appreciating my blog' or 'blogwalking' so... I dunno how to say lol. Uhh weird I guess. They're just promoting their advertisement for me to go to their website and hopefully buy their products which I absolutely don't need like deoderant. Okay, seriousy? Seriously? 


Aaaannwayyysss,

Back to the topic at hand. Violin exams is in 2 days! I seldom get this nervous for an exam but its special. Well first of all its grade 8. It's like the final test (Thats if I don't sit for diploma la lol) for me to see what I have learn and become after all those years of learning. If I get a stinking merit or pass, it's like canceling out all of my achievements or distinctions I got in the past. That would really suck. ._.


PPLUUS, I faced a similar situation for my grade 8 piano exams 2 years back. I was super confident because I've been getting distinction from grade 1 aaallll the way to that. So as you might have guessed, I did pretty badly and just mamanged a pass. -_- that hurt, alot. I can't let that happened to my violin.

I also wanna repay my teacher. Some teachers come and go in your life, but my violin teacher really affect my life. He taught me so well this past few years and I can't remember the last time I said thank you to him or show any sign of appreciation. :/ I really want to get a distinction and dedicate that to my teacher. I really love him as a teacher and this just may be my chance to show it.


I've been working my ass of life siao. Today I did 6 hours -____-' I haven't been with my friends or play futsal for a month. Just locked up in my music room practicing. I thought it was enough... But when I went for my last practice sessions, my teacher told me I was 'not bad'. I know exactly what he meant. I was bad. He just didn't want to discourage me because it's almost exam time already. That was a big kick in the balls. All that hardwork... and not good enough?? So dissapointed :(

I know I can atleast get a merit. But I'm really hoping for a distinction! Hope God answers my prayer! Until then, T-minus 1day 8 hours to my exams. The dreaded day.