The Right Solution

You know how when someone does something bad or mean to you and your first instinct is to get mad and try to get revenge?? Well what if I told you there was another way?? Read this first. :) A short version of the story.

- Funniest thing happened today: While looking for a car park today, a lady driving a red car wanted to come out from her lane and cut in front of my car. Seeing that I was only a fwe inches away from the car in front of me, I see no point in letting her through so I drove the car up when the car in front moved forward. What I saw next was the lady scolding me and starring at me like I was doing something wrong. Next thing I saw was her son sitting behind stuck his middle finger out. In return, Shi Qi who was sitting behind with Sarah saw it and gave him a 'heart shape' so the boy quickly took his finger down. Long story short, next time someone points their middle finger at you, remember to give them some 'love'. That way, we don't have to lower out standard to their standard by being annoyed :) -


Haha cool eh? Ordinarily in that situation, anyone would have thought of mean and nasty things to say back to these people. I know I would have. After all, they started it right??

But maybe thats the wrong thinking? It's typical to see people fighting negativity with negativity, but have anyone ever thought fighting it with a lil' positivity instead? Like Shi Qi. :) By seeking revenge, we're actually lowering ourselves to their already low standards. Not to mention it also ruins your mood and gives these people the satisfaction that they successfully ticked you off. So what's the point??

So why not change your mindset and trying to think of a positive way to respond instead? Something cool and quirky the reflects the kind of person you are. Who knows? They might learn a thing or two from you ;) And that just might be the right solution. :)

Shoutout to Shi Qi for her awesome-nest and for the inspiration for this blog post! :D seriously cool what you did there haha. 

Decisions

A friend asked you to borrow your favourite pencil. You are reluctant at first, but you agreed because he promised to return it to you after he was done using it. The next day, he told you he lost it and apologises. Would you: 
A. Get really mad at him and scold him for what he did. Then make him feel bad about it.
B. Get really mad and upset at first, but forgive him after awhile.
C. Shrug it off,accept his apology and just tell him to be more careful next time.

Soo... which answer will you choose??

Honestly speaking, if I had to choose an answer, I would choose A. As often as I say this, I always let my emotions come first and influence my decision. This is just a random case and there many other ways our emotions effect what we say and do. Aaron and Samuel, my classmates really opened my eyes. They handle these kind of situations so maturely and with a clear head that it makes me wonder, why DO I get mad over these small things?? And once again, to be honest, I don't even know. 

Maybe it's the satisfaction you get when the person feels guilty for doing what he did?? Or maybe it's a way for me to feel good about it?? Or even maybe i'm just being too emotional and letting my heart do the thinking instead of my head. Whatever it is, I now truly see that maybe there's some things in life not worth getting mad over. 

Let's put it this way, before making any decision, ask youself  'Which is more important. Your friend or his actions??' You'll be surprise to see and realize that your friendship with that person trumps almost anything that person did. Its better to forgive, forget and move on then to get all worked up and be emotional.  

So shoutout to Samuel Loi and Aaron Andre making me understand that life is too short to get mad about these little things. 


Their mistakes CAN be forgiven, our stuff CAN be compensated, but friends CAN NEVER be replaced.